This is a serious departure for me. Normally, I would never post something like this on my blog but desperate times call for desperate measures.
I want to tell you a story. A true story about me and it’s extremely personal.
When I was around a year old, my parents divorced and my mother and I were on our own for several years. My dad wasn’t ready to be a dad or a husband and he went on his way, lived his life and we lived ours without any contact at all.
My mom remarried when I was 5 and I had the tremendous blessing of being raised by a wonderful daddy who loved me and treated me as if I was his biological daughter. He legally adopted me when I was 10. Little did I know that around that same time, my biological father was remarrying also and became a step dad to his wife’s two boys.
I always wondered about him, who he was, where he lived…did he think about me?
I knew someday I would search him out to find answers to my millions of questions.
And, when I was 25, I did just that. I was shocked and surprised by how receptive he and his beautiful family were to me. They welcomed me in with open arms and we spent the next several years getting to know each other.
Two years ago, I moved from California, my home state to Texas, the state I was born in and they state my newly found dad lived. We’ve had an awesome opportunity to really get to know him and his family and we’ve developed a true family relationship, something I so desperately wanted as a little girl.
Last year, my dad (Don McKinney) was diagnosed with prostate cancer that had moved into his bones by the time they discovered it. He had been self employed for several years, and those of us who have been self employed understand the outrageous expense of health insurance, of which , he had none. Having cancer and no health insurance seemed like a death sentence until he found an angel of an oncologist who agreed to treat him for free. There are truly good people in the world and Dr. Mackey is one of them. However, things like CT scans, x-rays, MRI’s, prescriptions, and a million other daunting expenses are not free and corporations are only concerned with their bottom line.
Today I went with him and his wife, Pat and their friend Marty to Don’s dr. appointment. Don’s legs stopped functioning last week inexplicably, which is why Marty was there with us. We needed the man power to lift him in and out of the car and into his wheel chair. The $500 x-rays that they had to pay upfront in cash for told us nothing. A CT scan was ordered but we couldn’t find a facility that would break up the $900 cash payment for us and even then, really what he needs is an MRI, but that is going to cost somewhere in the $1500 range. It’s all so frustrating and me being one who doesn’t cry often, feels like I could just lose it at any moment now and possibly not stop for quite some time. I’m trying to hold it together.
All of this brings me to my point. I have created a fund raiser for Don and am trying to reach as many people as possible. They need help NOW, which is why I set the fundraiser deadline for one week. If you feel moved to help financially, I can’t thank you enough. If you can’t, maybe you would be kind enough to pass this information along. I know financial times are difficult for everyone but if you know someone who knows someone who knows someone who can help…seriously, that would be the greatest gift to me, to him, to all of us.